As parents one always feels that two or more kids are better than just one, reason for it is so that right from childhood they learn to share, care and unconditionally stand by each other. Now as adults, maturity men their love for each other is not lost yet certain situations create unwanted stress between them.
- Sharing of responsibilities: In most Indian families, it is the duty of the son/s to take care of their aging parents. Once the sons have grown up and have settled down in their lives with a good job and while the parents have aged and retired, the sons taken on the responsibilities from here, sharing the monthly household expenses to even shelling out some petty cash for their parents. Between the brothers they have their own understanding about how much either of them would be able to manage without getting burnt out, however in the same situation incase both are married then there is a high possibility of one of their wives asking as to why are they shelling out so much while the other brother not sharing equally. How much ever we may disagree, these comparisons still exists behind the closed bedroom door between the husband & wife, which does create stress and tears one brother for the other.
- Your wife v/s mine: Now that both the brothers are married, it does become a little stressful for them as it is very rare that the two sister-in-laws get along under the same roof, hence their differences that occur during the day are narrated to their respective husbands and finally the two brothers end up arguing or getting into a verbal war which in turn affects their health causing anxiety and blood pressure.
- Parents affected: When kids fight, parents get affected however when grown up adults (brothers/ children) fight or raise their voices, it affects their parents even more, stress created for them mentally even if they are only witnessing the quarrel and it directly shows on their health condition as they are more susceptible to getting a heart attack on witnessing bitter arguments between their children. As adults one should avoid this kind of behavior specially around your elders (old-parents) and children around, this can have an impact on their minds which may be witnessed by you in an unexpected way.
- Stress being a Man of the house: Brothers have a stronger bond since being boys to now being grown up men. Taking on the responsibility of being a bread winner for the family is stressful enough, to push yourself to work every day and ensuring the money is generated (if in business) or the courage to attend work and meet your boss’s expectation, aiming for a better score when appraisals happen. Here when you know you have a brother somewhere you within yourself feel the confidence to lean on if need be.
- Brotherhood: In some families, the beautiful bond of brotherhood is taken over by the demon of male ego, some fights are held on for a lifetime not realizing the psychological pain each of them go through deep within themselves, it is always good to forgive and forget, there should be nothing more important than your relationship instead of sulking and affecting your health.
- Brother Bond: Sometimes life is not kind however some brother bonds stronger than what you have seen it to be. It has been noticed that if either of the two brothers pass away, the other one takes on the financial responsibility of that brothers family, this may create stress for sure as its difficult to run one family and here the kindness to try and help the deceased brothers family as well. Some relations are just made in heaven.
- Brothers in the same family business: When two brothers are involved in their family business, with the ups and downs of being in business affects both of them and their families directly, certain economic changes brought about in India in the last few years have actually affected the individual business profits. Where both the men of the family are stressed about winning the bread, that for sure percolates to the other members as well. However this also shows their solidarity in standing together and finding ways to sustain their income for their family.
Men being men, as brothers, fathers and friends, not most are good with words to express but their actions display all their emotions. They are hurt at times and refuse to accept, they too get stressed about people they are concerned about, so when a brother has a brother to look up to or depend on helps them avoid stress and acquire lifestyle related diseases to a large extent.
