Being in love is one of the best feelings that a girl and boy feel in a relationship, considering they are young adults and want to live a life by their rules, at times end up shattered and with an aching heartbreak which takes a while to recover from. This condition causes depression which can be a threat to their individual lives as well.
- Possessive, tag along: During the early phase of the courtship, one likes the focus one get from your partner when they want to accompany you where ever you go and be with you all the time. In reality after a few months when your partner refuses or says that he/ she cannot go with you, the other person in the relationship starts doubting their intention which mentally strains the other person. While in a relationship, keep your mind alert and avoid doing things that would create unrealistic relationship benchmark for the long run.
- Trust & Demanding: As a Girl Friend and Boy Friend, one does share an intimate space which happens only when there is total trust and wish or demand from the other partner. Some like to capture these moments on their phones. These in-love moments become the ugliest nightmares that can affect your health with sleepless nights, guilt and feeling stressed, if this relationship ends. Hence respect your relationship and your privacy, avoid capturing such moments irrespective of how much you trust your partner.
- Connected 24×7: Thanks to the cell phones, we are connected 24×7, however as a Girl Friend & Boy Friend, one wants to be connected as though they live together under one roof, with a constant chat window active and a live commentary on. Initially it all feels very nice and rosy however after a few months, when you really want some time for yourself, you end up getting stressed by the counter questions as explanations asked by your partner that is when you start feeling tied down.
- Changed my ways and myself for you: Once a couple has spent a few months being in a relationship, when they introspect about themselves, one tends to get a feeling of what all they have had to let-go of as their partner disliked or disapproved of it, this creates stress thinking they have had to change their ways and self for their partner, in the bargain have lost their inner self.
- Arguments and patch-ups, Where is the Love? : Few months and years spent being in a relationship, during this period both of them have acquired their own opinion and judgment about their partner. They have reached a situation where they no longer want to compromise on what they want to do, irrespective of what their partners might feel about it, they are ok to end up arguing or later patching up with their partner, as right now they want their inner emotions to be freed. A relationship is all about being together as one team and having the confidence of being yourself irrespective of your partner being around or not.
- Out of sight and out of mind: Jobs today demand a lot, travel and socializing with colleagues. When one is out with their office colleagues and their partner is not around, one suddenly feels like freedom and wants to let loose, at the same time if one is out with their partner their actions and behavior is constrained proving that the relationship that they share as girl-friend and boy-friend is stressed and unhealthy.
- Move-on: At the end of a chocking relationship, one finally gathers courage and moves on; however the after effects of the relationship now start cropping up, with ugly blames from your partner and the emotional stress that one already is feeling. However hang in there, this will also pass.
When you really love someone and wish to spend your entire life with that person, firstly be practical and fathom the pros and cons to the relationship. How much ever you may love that person, this has a very high possibility to change once you are married or chose to live under one roof. As they say love is blind, this one of the biggest alerts that a couple should consider, contemplate yourself if you can accept and adjust to these ‘not pleasing’ behavior of the other person and only if you are zillion percent sure, ‘go’ for it, else the wise thing is to ‘let go’ of it. Unhappy relationship is one of the prime causes for stress, diabetes, blood pressure, etc and one has the right to opt to live with or without that relationship.
